Resources & Support
Because it is human to need and we all need help sometimes.
Couples Connection
Couples Resources
(Emotionally Focused Therapy):
Books:
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Sue Johnson
Created for Connection: The Hold Me Tight Guide for Christian Couples by Sue Johnson
Workbooks:
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples
YouTube Videos:
Empathy vs. Sympathy by Brene Brown
Hold Me Tight Events:
https://iceeft.com/hold-me-tight-events/
Research:
https://iceeft.com/eft-research-3/
https://iceeft.com/eft-articles/
Books I recommend
Some folks really connect with reading.
Reading can give us a space to slow down, reflect, and dig deeper into the work we need to do.
Whether it’s reading a book (or listening to an audio book) alongside of therapy work or bringing your book in to discuss, reading can be a helpful support.
I frequently recommend to get a book and make it your own- underline, highlight, write in the margins, and even bring it in to discuss what you’re learning and what is impacting you, if you’d like.
Other Recommendations
Here are some of the books I commonly suggest for folks
Anchored: Befriending Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory by Deb Dana
Polyvagal Practices: Anchoring the Self in Safety by Deb Dana
The Body Keeps the Score Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Vessel van der Kolk
The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker
Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud
Imperfect: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel F. S. Heller
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsey C. Gibson, PsyD
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Boundaries Workbook
Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Grenny, Patterson, etc.
Dare to Lead by Brene Brown